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Open Ended Questions
In open ended questions the child is free to come up with whatever answer they wish. This can
be quite overwhelming. Wait until the child is comfortable answering forced choice questions
before moving on to open ended questions. If the child is unable to answer an open ended
question, rephrase it as a forced choice question.
Examples
Indirect: I wonder what game David wants to play.
Yes/No: Do you want to play Go Fish?
Forced Choice: Do you want to play Go Fish or Memory or something else?
Open Ended: What game do you want to play today?
Indirect: I wonder if Annie likes to dance.
Yes/No: Do you like to dance?
Forced Choice: Do you like to dance or do you not like to dance?
Open Ended: What kind of dancing do you like?
Tips
After asking a question wait at least 5 seconds for a response. If no response is given,
restate the question and wait another 5 seconds. If still no response, rephrase the question
or move to an easier type of question (from open ended to forced choice, or from forced
choice to yes/no).
Avoid direct eye contact while questioning the child as this makes them more nervous.
Repeat or echo what the child says and give labeled praise to reinforce the verbal
response. "You're in first grade. Thanks for telling me."
Don't get overly excited when the child answers. Act like you normally would when any
other person speaks to you.
If the child is unable to answer you directly, they may be able to give their answer to a
friend or parent who can then relay the answer to you. While you stand by listening, have
the friend or parent restate your question to the child and get a verbal response.
In a group situation, sometimes taking the child aside one-on-one will make it possible
for them to give their answer.
Some children are able to speak through a stuffed animal or toy, using it like a puppet.
Try not to let questions go unanswered. This will reinforce the child's avoidance of
answering. Make sure that the child is relaxed and comfortable with you and the situation
before asking direct questions.
Save an unanswered question and try again later when the child is less stressed.
Show your confidence in the child’s ability to speak. If they are unable to answer after
several attempts say something like, "I know you are thinking about what you want to say
and you'll share it when you are ready. We will try again later."